All right dear ones, I am off to sleep. Good night all, take good care of yourselves and each other, and we’ll catch up again soon!
i used to be against small talk because i was bad at it, and then i grew up a bit and got a job that’s 90% talking to strangers face to face. now i love small talk because it makes people comfortable and relaxed, and happy to bond with you.
if you think small talk sucks then you’re shit at small talk. it’s a learned skill, go practice it.
Retail was amazing therapy for my social anxiety. I went from barely being able to form sentences in the company of strangers, to initiating flirtations.
The great thing about working/volunteering as a tutor and museum guide was I got to work on my social skills while talking about maths and science :)
There’s a gender dimension here where “girly” skills like socialising and making people feel at ease are somehow not skills, and therefore jobs that use them (like retail) don’t deserve to be reimbursed well. This is a fucking crock of shit, as all of us who have had to learn to interact with humans can tell you (and not just any humans, but humans ranging from poor to rich, sane to batshit, children to elderly, all races and language groups, the whole frickin’ rainbow).
Also, if the small talk is semi-voluntary rather than professional (it’s actually easier in retail because it’s mostly “Is that on credit? Pin or sign? You know my bank’s threatening to break my knees if I don’t get a PIN, haha!”), you need to find your people. If you’re at a party, see if you can find someone wearing an Assassin’s Creed shirt or quietly kibitz on a conversation about the Avengers. If you’re at a professional function, it’s OK to talk about the professional schtick.
Finally, I work in a shop that sells maps, and one of our big customer groups is hunters. I literally work in a role which allows me to farewell people with “Good hunting!”. Man, I’m gonna miss that shop.
Having a job where you interact with people really does do amazing things for your social skills. Like the other posters I had zero ability to talk to people until I started work and suddenly had to be able to talk to boarders on a moment’s notice. I was incredibly nervous at first, but with enough practice I found it was really fun and after enough of a stretch it became easy. It just took time.
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It should be a rule of Tumblr to always reblog none pizza with left beef
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My friend Jenna has left an abusive domestic situation and is looking to relocate and start a new life for herself and her cat. She’s in a temporary home and is currently out of work. I’d like help her raise money for this move, so here’s what I’m going to do:
I haven’t seen this around tumblr just yet, so I wanted to put my own word out about it.
This is a fashion doll created by an illustrator that has been modeled to the standard proportions of the average 19 year old girl. She’s healthy, sporty, wears natural makeup, and GOSH DARNIT LOOK HOW POSABLE SHE’LL BE.
The project is technically fully funded now, but the more support and preorders it gets, the more influential it will be. My mom just got one for the sole purpose of keeping in the box, because best case scenario, these things become the next barbie and they’re worth big bucks later on; worst case scenario, she helped support an artist with a good cause.
Preorders aren’t outrageous at all. $25 for a first-edition doll that will NOT be sold in retail stores. Please spread the word and help get this doll known!One of my dreams has just come true.
TINY PURRING TACO CAT :D
The wild lumploaf in its natural habitat.